About My Plan

This is clearly not what I had planned for my life. I was over forty, divorced, devastated and left wondering if I would spend the rest of my life alone. One evening while watching TV, I saw a commercial for eHarmony. It had an older joyful couple embraced, and the message the woman had for the viewers is to never stop looking. It struck me then, that I must stand up, dust myself off and get back into the dating circle if there was to be any hope for me.

I came from a small town in Southern Illinois, born to the daughter of State Trooper and a US Postal worker. My father taught me to be cautious of shady characters, and was all too keen to point out every flaw in every man I ever dated. My Mother taught me to see the best in people, give them the benefit of the doubt and be compassionate for others. It is a delicate balance to manage these skills, but they would be imperative for finding a new mate. I would rely on my father’s instincts for the screening process, and I would need my Mother’s wisdom for moving forward into a new relationship.

Since I had no clue where I had gone wrong, I would need to solicit the help from a few others as well. I needed Dr Phil to cut it to me straight, so I could learn from my mistakes. I needed Oprah to point me in the right direction to collect the resources I needed. I needed Dr. Oz to help me feel healthy and vibrant again. And I needed a few friends who always knew the answers anyway, to help me pick up my life by the tail coat and press forward. So I began my mental imagary of me, Oprah, Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz and a few of my dear friends holding hands in a prayer circle to get me on the right path, to change my approach, my life, my health, my mind, my attitude and my spirit. It had to be a wholistic approach, or it simply wouldn’t work. The intent was to find a man that was healthy for me, but I would also need to be healthy for him.

I had dated a lot in my college years and prior to my marriage. I had a few serious boyfriends and of course my ex-husband. I considered myself to be fairly savy when it came to dating, if I could hide the fact that I was dragging my heart on the carpetting behind me. I had to date much differently than in the younger years, and this time, it was mission critical that I became more receptive to listening than ever before, since this was clearly, not what I had planned for my life.

And then I began the birth of my formally documented Project Plan – to find a new man. This blog is dedicated to how I found a great guy, after forty, using the Project Plan. If there is hope for me, then there is hope for all women out there wanting to be with the new love of their life.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: